So if you ever had someone hurt you horribly, even though that person didn't intend to, remember we are all sometimes thoughtless and we are all imperfect. If you ever had someone try to force his/her will upon you because it is "what is best" for you, this shows an "egotistic ferver in which the person can believe their opinions and views are 100% right for everyone (that they know better than the actual person what is good for him/her)" and should not be tolerated. Lastly, sometimes it just shows a shortcoming in analysis and planning...think before you leap.
I guess the point I am trying to make is after the initial shock wears off, try to analyze the reason for the person's actions. Try to understand what is driving their behaviour. This will help you discern the meaning of their actions. Then, with this knowledge make the decision in how you want to handle the transgression. Set the appropriate boundary between you and the other person. We all need to set boundaries, not only for our well-being but for the well-being of the other person. And remember, forgiveness is for your own peace of mind. It does not mean you condone or accept the other person's actions and behaviour.
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